Why focus on how it works rather than just the difficulty?
A visible difficulty does not always allow us to understand what produces it.
Two people can experience the same problem for very different reasons. Conversely, the same difficulty in functioning can manifest itself in several ways: stress, fatigue, physical tension, relationship difficulties, loss of motivation, or repetition of certain situations.
My approach therefore consists of starting from what is observable, then seeking to understand how the system works in the situation encountered, rather than immediately presupposing what should be corrected.
1. Start with what is observable
The starting point is what the person actually experiences.
What is happening? In what situations? Since when? What triggers or amplifies the difficulty? What, on the contrary, reduces it?
These observations provide us with concrete benchmarks that we can refer back to in order to assess the evolution.
The goal is not just to understand more, but to observe what actually changes in everyday experience.
2. Do not presuppose the cause
A symptom or difficulty does not necessarily tell us what causes it.
Fatigue can be associated with overload, insufficient recovery, or the constant mobilization of certain resources.
A relationship difficulty can involve communication, emotions, certain past experiences, or the way a situation is interpreted.
Rather than automatically applying a response to an identified problem, the approach therefore seeks to understand what really deserves attention in this particular situation.
3. Observe multiple dimensions
Human functioning is not based on a single dimension.
Cognition, emotions, and the body constantly interact. Depending on the situation, relationships, a person's history, and their environment can also influence how an experience is received and processed.
Observing several dimensions helps to avoid reducing a difficulty to a single explanation and to obtain a more global reading of the situation.
4. Cross-reference the information
The support is based first and foremost on what the person observes, feels and can describe.
This information can be supplemented by various tools when relevant.
Muscle testing can provide additional insight into how the body reacts to information or a situation. Other tools can be used to observe certain physiological dimensions or the system's regulatory capabilities.
No piece of information is considered in isolation. It is their relationship to the person's experience and context that gives them their relevance.
5. Identify what deserves attention
The goal is not to systematically look for what is wrong.
It is rather a matter of identifying what appears, at a given moment, to limit the system's ability to deal with the situation encountered.
This may involve an insufficiently available resource, a response that has become automatic, a difficulty in retrieval, or a way of working that was useful in the past but now requires a lot of energy.
The work can then be directed towards what seems most relevant, rather than intervening indiscriminately on the entire system.
Understanding what is happening is not always enough to change a response. The work also allows us to experiment with other possibilities, in order to observe what the system can gradually mobilize differently.
6. Observe what changes
An intervention only becomes truly meaningful when it produces an observable difference.
Does a reaction become less automatic? Does a situation require less effort? Does a person recover more easily? Do they have new possible responses? Has their relationship to a situation changed?
These observations allow us to gradually assess what is evolving and what still requires attention.
The goal is to develop an increasingly nuanced understanding of one's own functioning and to regain more freedom in how one responds to situations encountered.
Understanding how it works isn't about finding an explanation for everything. It's about having enough information to regain more choice, adaptability, and autonomy.